Positive Aging Strategy.
Those that want a strategy that ages them positively to view themselves in Middle, Late Adulthood, not forgetting octogenarians, a bit of bias from me here!
Anyone in these categories, you've earned your stripes over the years and are VIPs for your respective families and significant others.
Positive Aging Strategy forms a significant emphasis on recognising the multiple categories of VIPs that influence a traumatised client to pull from their lifeline.
The obvious ones are parents/grandparents, and the not so prominent yet sometimes just as influential. Example: Dogs VIPs (in my case labradors) Unconditional love over 59 years of married life!
My video below is an example of our unconditional love of Labradors!
Those in late adulthood, sometimes pets are all they got! 🐕🦺 🐈
The Power of Three Experts:
1. When we combine our strengths, values, beliefs, wisdom, and experiences in the challenging trenches that life throws at us from time to time!
2. A family member or someone else facing an ordeal of any intensity, presenting their unique story wrapped around the problem. No one can tell it better than they can!
3. I come in with the expert questioning to elicit what Number 2 is good at, and your VIP status amplifies their qualities to achieve greatness!
Positive Aging Strategist.
Positive Aging Strategy, the momentum of contribution is gathering some significance!
With this collaboration, I pledge to use what I have learned from Solution-Focused Therapies and Positive Psychology to achieve a pathway to happiness and well-being that has staying power that moves forward as legacy ideals!
What we've got here is an extraordinary united front from the traumatised client rising from the ashes overwhelmed to strengths, resilient coping abilities.
A potent lifeline of VIPs and my guidance of positive questioning help magnetise these qualities, beliefs, hopes and desires to achieve positive outcomes.
Positive Aging Strategy can and do wear VIPs crowns🌅 proudly, and assist so many family members!
In the second video below you see how significant they can be!
Typical scenario my client comes to me either mandated or of their free will, with a problem saturated narrative to tell, filled with overwhelm, can't see the wood for the trees!
The span is endless, substance abuse, marriage on the cliff-face, domestic violence, and any conflict you can imagine!
Setting the tone for questioning, I use the following by Lou Holst in the New York Times:
"I never learn anything talking, and I only learn things when I ask questions."
The questions focus on the person's strengths, what they are good at and how they have coped despite the confronting trauma.
Their VIPs lifeline of resources.
The radical departure of problem focus acknowledged but not empathised!
The theme of the questioning is problem-free discussions.
"What would you like to be doing instead of losing your temper?"
Meditating examples of Strengths:
What are you good at and enjoy doing?
How did you become good at this?
How have you coup with this?
Who are the most influential people in your life?
What do you most appreciate about them?
Who was worried about you and thought it would be helpful coming here?
How can I be most helpful for you today so that this meeting is worthwhile?
What are your best hopes for this meeting?
What have you be doing instead when your problem is solved?
The videos (below) demonstrates these types of questions and possible responses when using illuminating problem-free talk!
The great thing about Solution-Focused Questioning, there is liberal and genuine use of complements : (example)
"Wow! How did you do it?"
And, emotional confirmation of responses: (example)
"Of course, that must be difficult for you."
The whole idea of this form of questioning is to have the client feel good about themself and then flows on in torrents to their VIPs and me, the practitioner.
Hope now becomes a reality to set some worthwhile goals🤠!