What Is Authentic Happiness
Emotional RoadBlocks
What Is Authentic Happiness
Emotional RoadBlocks!
The flexibility of emotions, letting the data provide the feelings we are experiencing. Far from being dictated by them, we don't push them away and use them to our advantage.
Authentic happiness is my shattering reality that the oneness of Positive Psychology's science of Happiness and Well-being.
What Is Authentic Happiness
Counter Balancing Emotions
What Is Authentic Happiness
"What follows helps you find that balance".
What that means for you, by calling it authentic happiness indicates you cannot be happy all the time, but aiming at having a sweetspot and finding a balance between negative and positive experiences.
Whitney Goodman's excellent book on Toxic Positivity helps you become aware this authenticity.(I have included the video (below) for you to listen and watch.
Virtually letting the torchbearers who confirmed my shining light on how to discuss what authentic happiness is about. Finding the balance between the emotional tightrope that creates the chatterbox in our heads that puts a stranglehold on achieving genuine happiness when it's most needed.
Honourably, here they are and what achievements they have brought to the world:
Click on the following links to watch some of the most life changing video and TEDTALKS!
- Ellen Langer, Mother of Mindfulness and CounterClockWise Video:
- Susan David, Emotional Agility TEDTALK and book
- Emily Esfahani Smith, TEDTALK There's more to life than being happy. Based on her book: The Power of Meaning.
The balancing act of positive and negative emotions leads to awareness triggering a powerful emotional intelligence after considering the above wonderful torchbearers.
Ellen Langer's Psychology of Possibility was a turning point in my life to follow the challenge she did with the CounterClockWise experiment she did in 1981, turning back the clock 20 years to 1959.
- The theme compares the magic of being aware of how we mindlessly react to social and cultural cues.
- We need to challenge the idea that limits we assume must exist for us all.
- With only subtle shifts in our thinking, our language and our expectations.
- We then begin to change the ingrained behaviours that sap creativity, health, optimism and vitality from our lives.
- Also, there was no reason for improved vision, younger appearance, and weight loss to be worthy considerations.
- All of the above, Langer stated, are the consequences of these subtle changes!
- When we increase our mindfulness, we increase our effectiveness, health, and overall well-being.
The famous CounterClockWise proved how conclusive this was in merely one week!
"I took this challenge in my late seventies in 2015 and turned the clock back to 1995. I was surprised by how close this matched my reality!
The results of my challenges put my mindfulness on an upward spiral achieving some remarkable outcomes:
Positive Ageing became my niche for my website, and although I was in my eighties, to gain qualifications in:
- Diploma of Counselling: Australian Institute Professional Counsellors RN # BRPA 5962
- Diploma of Positive Psychology and Wellbeing: Langley Group Institute 10653NAT
- USI 9JPF7VGT6 (For above Australian diplomas)
- Positive Psychology Diploma, Life Navigation Program by positivepsychology.com endorsed approval American Psychological Association (APA). and,
- Solution-Focused Brief Therapy Certifications:
- https://courses.solutionfocused.net/certificates/5asxluupy7
- https://courses.solutionfocused.net/certificatesra/ksfdq22gq2
- https://courses.solutionfocused.net/certificates/obabqo0woc
- Clients Experiencing Grief: SF Approach
- Conversations in Schools: An Integration of Education and Mental Health
- I can tick off with confidence most of the above subtle changes. I am highlighting physical and mental fitness. I am one the oldest active member of the Albany Creek gym, spanning 25 years plus. I exercise with weights and cardio.
- Several people can't believe I am in my eighties.
Susan David, Emotional Agility TEDTALK and book
Susan's amplified my understanding of having a good grasp of Emotional Intelligence.
"I love her quote about people who say they don't want to try because they don't want to feel disappointed. "They are dead people's goals"
Susan's response, you have dead people's goals!
- Emily Esfahani Smith, TEDTALK There's more to life than being happy. Based on her book: The Power of Meaning.
- Her power of meaning is critical for clients considering Solution-Focused Therapy facing trauma or crises.
- Her Four Pillars build a Positive Growth Mindset for most people to grasp with both hands to understand how powerful meaning is!
What Is Authentic Happiness
Here's My Trigger!
My Hybrid Catalyst Niche
An integration potency of the following:
Creating an inspirational reinforcing upward evolutionary dynamic spiral
- Positive Ageing with 🌀
- Positive Psychology 🌀
- Positive Solutions 🌀
- With this integration, a catalyst appeared, causing the three Ps to interact phenomenally, and then:
🌀Spiralling into a 4th Power igniting a Positive Outcome for you, your mentors and me as your guide.
What it means to you, the Hybrid Catalyst amplifies each step of your journey with self-reinforcing positive feedback loops, creating your internal combustion of enlightenment!
Despite any challenge, trauma or crisis blocking your treasured outcome!
EvolutionaryGold Standards Programs 👑 Uniquely Yours:
I have purposely labelled the spirals' 🌀 evolutionary as my niche is Positive Ageing, focusing on people who are in mid-adulthood and have been through the mill of experiences and challenges, seasoned with abundant wisdom and skills.
I want to inspire these people who may have left these collections of attributes on the back burner for far too long without recognising their potential!
They are best positioned to offer advice and create legacies for future generations to develop evolutionary positive spirals.
I take it further and embrace Positive Ageing with mental and physical fitness. I practice this activity to help prevent dementia.
A regular gym program and the love of learning new things!
"Enough evidence and research support what I am practising."
Gold Standard Programs 👑 Uniquely Yours:
I use an integrated program of Positive Psychology and Solution-Focused Therapy. I focus on your strengths, skills, and resources, including those most dear to you! This is your platform to help you achieve your desired outcome! These programs are evidence-based and have earned Gold standard ratings 💛
"Just one more thing"
When you go through my Hybrid Catalyst Program, there will be a positive trigger: a Growth Mindset instead of a Fixed Mindset!
You won't be swayed by the opinions of others who say it won't work!
We put a bonfire 🔥 under your creative inspiration; you keep asking yourself, Why Not?
" I decided to takeEllen Langer's Counter-Clockwise experiment as challenge for myself".
I turned back the clock to 1959, and relived the experience, and to my surprise:
My Hybrid Catalyst Niche spiralled 🌀, and I became a Positive Ageing Innovator!
Authentic Happiness
- You are surrounded by happiness. We chose The Gateway Hotel, Nadi Fiji.
- Where do you find yours from time to time?
We don't have to look too far!
Cosmic or Universe creative influences of the world around us!
These ideas can pop into your head when you are not thinking about them, a workout at the gym, a walk in the park, or a conversation with a friend. Also, your ideas can carry on from here to eternity as legacies!
Music is a wonderful way of introducting Authentic Happiness instantantly!
Metaphors: Solar-Powered Ideas. The massive push for Climate Change, at the same time, why not push for Mind Change?
Authentic happiness is evolutionary for my wife and me.
My discovery of the potency of integrating Positive Ageing
("Where I am in life, right now.") with,
Positive Psychology (Confirmation of following my life's journey) and Positive Solutions (Achieving the desired outcome)
The shattering realisation of what I was doing unconsciously throughout my life was, in reality, grabbing the concepts of Positive Psychology and turning the Science of Happiness into my beautiful reality.
Being happily married for the past 61 years and still counting. Surrounded by loving family members, not forgetting my Labradors bears proof of this authenticity.
I was looking at a glorious sunset, momently reflecting rays that were very dear to my heart of how grateful and appreciative I am for my life.
Those two considerations forged values and beliefs, creating meanings of my Authentic Happiness. I count my challenges as blessings spiralling me to become a better person.
There is so much to living and fulfilment of gratitude and appreciation, and you get back from others tenfold!
Then I thought, why not integrate these concepts as a dynamic Hybrid that flows into Authentic Happiness wouldn't be genuine unless we realise that imperfect human beings will face all sorts of challenges in forging healthy relationships to break through to that state of bliss.
"All of us are wired to break through any barriers and achieve Authentic Happiness."
If you want inspired confirmation of this, read Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl.
Of course, there are many other examples where people have turned traumatic events into positive opportunities despite enormous odds!
As we are uniquely different and imperfect human beings, challenges to see people's distinct points of view will always be there with a cocktail of emotions and feelings.
As human beings, there's no escaping emotional feelings of joy, happiness, humour, sadness, fear, anger, and so on.
Emotions are helpful data, but not directives, being careful not to own us.
Susan David, importantly says, has a definite gap---- between the emotion experienced pregnant pause. I'm noticing I'm feeling sad or angry.
When we lead meaningful lives, authentic happiness is the wonderful byproduct!
What Is Authentic Happiness
One word captures its meaning love!
Overlooking Cuvu Bay.
Our second home!
What Is Authentic Happiness
Coralie and I are living it!I have used the growth stages of the coconut as a metaphor for Positive Ageing to replicate how we overcome challenges of all types of intensity despite all this, and lead purposeful and meaningful lives creating wonderful legacies for our loved ones to experience and follow!
Natures huge struggle for the shute to penetrate the coconut husk!
The next stage producing a lovey bunch of coconuts!
Dead coconut trees reincarnated into unique furniture graces our home!
Virgin Coconut Oil
Many health and fitness benefits, and still counting!